Have you ever felt so angry at yourself based on the magnitude of your mistake? Sometimes this is out of a feeling that you could turn things around and make a change of decision; I have felt this a lot of times, and it has come as a result of disappointing myself or making a mistake.
Mistakes are among the most prominent reasons for anger toward oneself. One mistake can quickly overrule your wins over the years.
Mistakes have a perfect way of concealing your greatness by compounding your misgivings. The constant dwelling on mistakes causes the feeling of anger towards yourself.
What is self-anger?
Anger towards self is a strong feeling of displeasure about something you wish you had done or had not done or a mistake you had made. Whenever you’re angry at yourself, remember you are not alone, and your mistakes do not define you. Take a moment, take a deep breath, control your emotions, and figure out the way forward from whatever you did or didn’t do.
Here are five things you can do whenever you are in a state of self-anger
1) You are human: Remember that you are human and humans make mistakes. Being human means, you’re not perfect and are prone to make mistakes. You can learn from your mistakes and do things better next time. This is why your mistakes should not be a reason to be discouraged.
Just like a little child falls when he learns to walk, your mistakes make you better, so don’t limit yourself because of your mistakes or actions. Consider them a part of your training on the road to becoming a professional in your field.
When you make mistakes or disappoint yourself, don’t allow anger to overcome you. Allow yourself to see lessons on becoming a better person and professional.
2. Work on your errors and decision: Whenever you are angry at yourself because of your lack of decision or a mistake you made, that is the time to stand up and engage your mind by working on a solution to the mistake you’ve made or improving on your decision making ability.
Every error you make is a call to training and improved professionalism. Do not accept any situation; engage your mind, explore solutions, and fix the problem when you feel angry at yourself. That is the way to grow.
3. Forgive yourself: Ever heard the saying ‘to err is human, to forgive is divine?” As long as you are a human, you will make mistakes or how you will act after making the mistakes is what makes you as an individual forgive yourself.
Forgiveness is a potent and essential key to recovery from self-anger; when not adequately managed, anger can turn into self a threat. Forgive yourself. That’s the best way to move on.
4. Seek professional help: Whenever you are dealing with negative or heightened emotions, your feelings are clouded. It always takes work to find a positive ground. This is the time to seek professional counsel and help.
Talk to someone. It may be a friend or a professional. Tell them how you feel and explain your feelings about yourself. They will listen to you and give you the help you need.
They will also help you work out your anger. Professional help would help you get past the self-anger and advise you on overcoming it and moving forward. They would also give you a listening ear and offer advice on the way forward.
5. Learn from your mistakes and give yourself another chance: Earlier in this article, we established that mistakes happen to everyone. How you handle the mistake and the lessons you have learned from it make you stand out.
When you make a mistake, be calm instead of pulling yourself down through anger, and take time to learn. Study your mistakes, find out why and where you failed, and note them down.
Learn why you have failed and create a plan to do better. Pick yourself up and give yourself another chance. Mistakes and failure are not the end of your life.
When in doubt and overwhelmed with negative feelings about yourself, take a break and remember all the times you have succeeded at your projects. Reaffirm positivity and strength and encourage yourself. That is the way to handle anger towards oneself.
